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Not Your Bitch

Don and I were working on another song and I came up with the chorus for this one. We finally got it done and I gave it to a good friend of mine to put on her blog cos I dunno how to put it on mine. Hah.

Here's the link
And below are the lyrics... Somehow I don't think they're gonna let me play this one on air.

Not Your Bitch

I’m not your girlfriend but don’t treat me like your bitch x 3
Tell me that you need me, when you’re feeling down
But every time I need you, honey you never come around

I’m not your girlfriend but don’t treat me like your bitch

Baby boy, gotta lotta baggage
And I know, I know how to deal
Only wants you, when it is convenient
Doesn’t really, really care how it makes you feel
That’s when you say

I’m not your girlfriend, but don’t treat me like your bitch

Ooh darling, ooh darling you know
I’m leaning towards showing you the door
And I know that you will be missing me for sure
But you’re dreaming if you think I’ll let you walk the hell all over me
There may be times I’m insecure but

I’m not your girlfriend but don’t treat me like your bitch

SOLO by K

This one’s for the time you made me stay up just to make me cry
How bout all the time’s I caught you, caught you telling me a lie
You know I remember all the calls that ended in goodbye
Then saw you the next day in a picture taken late at night
I may not be your girlfriend but it don’t mean that you can treat me like your bitch

Amsterdam Day 2

There's something quite wonderful about Amsterdam.

On the way in here from London there were loads of Dutch people on the flight and they must've all gone on some kind of trip together, I dunno. But they were hugging and smiling as they said goodbye to each other later after getting their bags.

We got ours and my mum's old boss, Otbert, came to pick us up at the airport. He's a cool guy, I'm glad they've kept in touch all these years. He took us to his house in Amstelveen, and we caught up with his wife, Linda, a beautiful Chinese woman, and their daughter, Karen, who is 9 and seems to need to be constantly engaged, which is why she's usually playing with her Nintendo DS. Otbert's daughter from a previous marriage, Anna, is there as well. She's 18, and sometimes reminds me of myself, but she's probably a lot more hardcore.

We're staying at the Hotel Pulitzer, which is on a street on one of the canals and I cannot remember how to spell the name of the street because it has a weird gutteral sound in the pronunciation of it. It sounds like 'prinsekraaaaht'. Anyway, it's such a nice hotel and on the way to the restaurant there is an art gallery. I will have to post pictures on FB...

We went to Anne Frank's house! They did it up so well. I wish that I could've taken pictures because it's so well done! Bits of the house are kept as they were when Anne Frank lived in it and bits of it have been restored in this modern, Bauhaus-inspired way. Anyway, Linda took us and she knew the story because it was actually the first English book Otbert had given her when they were courting, and he had given her the kids version because at the time she hadn't known a word of English! She speaks it fluently now of course, and her Dutch is getting better too. She only learned it when they moved here 5 years ago. She's quite a remarkable lady. It was cool that she took us too also because it was the first time she was going since moving there as well!

I really like it here. But I probably couldn't live here because I would get absolutely nothing done. Haha. It's got such a good vibe though. I feel comfortable here. It reminds me a little of the feeling I got when I went to Hamburg. I got lost in that city because I stepped off our tour bus and had to wander around finding my way back to the hotel and took loads of b&w pictures on the way. I like to take black & whites on holiday.... I guess because it makes it feel like the holiday was cemented in time. Or that it makes it feel like more of a classic memory. I'm probably just romanticising.


Anne Frank museum website
Hotel Pulitzer Amsterdam

The Cast of Six Feet Under... Where Are They Now?

So I just finished Episode 3 of Season 3. I love this show so much, seriously. I've learned a lot about myself because of it. Anyway, thought I'd sift through the web - specifically iMDB, Wikipedia and Google - to find out where some of the cast are now.

Peter Krause

Peter William Krause (born August 12, 1965) is an American film and television actor and film producer. He is perhaps best known for his lead roles as Nate Fisher on the HBO drama Six Feet Under and Nick George on the ABC dramedy Dirty Sexy Money alongside Donald Sutherland. After Sports Night and Six Feet Under, it is the third show for which Krause has received star billing that his character has had a wife or ex-wife by the name of Lisa. The show was canceled in 2008.

Peter Krause is currently living in Los Angeles. He has two siblings, Michael Krause and Amy Krause. He has a son named Roman who was born in November 2001.

Frances Conroy

In 1992, Conroy became friends with playwright Arthur Miller, which led to her involvement in many of his productions on both stage and screen. During this period, she also appeared on television shows, miniseries, and made-for-TV movies, and met and married fellow actor Jan Munroe.

Conroy is best known for her critically acclaimed work on HBO's original drama series Six Feet Under playing family matriarch Ruth Fisher. For her work on the series, Conroy was nominated for four Emmy Awards (one for every year she was eligible) and won a Golden Globe and three Screen Actors Guild Awards.

Michael C Hall

Michael Carlisle Hall (born February 1, 1971) is an American actor whose television roles include David Fisher in the HBO drama series Six Feet Under and Dexter Morgan in the still running Showtime series Dexter.

Lauren Ambrose

Lauren Ambrose (born February 20, 1978) is an American film and television actress best known for portraying the character Claire Fisher on the HBO drama Six Feet Under. (Does anyone else remember her from “Can’t Hardly Wait” where she played Seth Green’s love interest!?!?!!)

Ambrose was born Lauren Anne D'Ambruoso in New Haven, Connecticut. She is a trained opera singer who studied voice and opera at the Boston University of Tanglewood Institute. Ambrose has been married to professional photographer Sam Handel of Needham, MA since September 2001. The couple have a son, Orson Handel (b. January 16, 2007) and currently live in Stockbridge, MA.

Mathew St. Patrick

Mathew St. Patrick (born March 17, 1968) is an American actor. He has starred as Adrian Sword in the television soap opera All My Children (1998–2000), starred (2001–2005) as Keith Charles on HBO drama Six Feet Under, was the first voice of Skulker (2004) on Danny Phantom and starred as the principal detective in the Fox fall drama, Reunion (2005). St. Patrick played Seth in the 2008 science fiction horror film Alien Raiders.

He recently played the part of an FBI agent in the film War. He recently appeared on the Eminem album Relapse (album) in the skit "Mr. Mathers".

Rachel Griffiths

Griffiths and Toni Collette were relative unknowns when they were cast as best friends and fellow outcasts in the 1994 film Muriel's Wedding. Her performance won her critical acclaim and both the Australian Film Critics Award and the Australian Film Institute Awards for Best Supporting Actress. She followed this triumph in 1996 with the role of an earthy, ill-mannered pig farmer's daughter in Michael Winterbottom's Jude.

In 1997, Griffiths sparked a controversy after attending the opening of the Crown Casino topless and uninvited, her stated reasoning being the protest of the views taken by the media and state government towards the new casino, and inspired by the story of Lady Godiva.

Griffiths joined forces again with Muriel's Wedding director P. J. Hogan for her American film debut, My Best Friend's Wedding, in 1997. That same year she starred in My Son the Fanatic, a British film in which she portrayed a tough Yorkshire prostitute who becomes involved with a considerably older Pakistani taxicab driver, played by Om Puri.

Griffiths received an Academy Award nomination for Best Supporting Actress for her portrayal of real-life flautist Hilary du Pré opposite Emily Watson as her sister, famed cellist Jacqueline "Jackie" du Pre, in Hilary and Jackie (1998). She then appeared in 2001's Blow, opposite Johnny Depp and Ray Liotta.

In 2001, Griffiths was cast as one of the leads in Six Feet Under. Her performance as emotionally scarred massage therapist Brenda Chenowith earned her Golden Globe and Screen Actors Guild Awards, as well as two Emmy Award nominations.

As of 2006, she became part of the ensemble cast, co-starring alongside Sally Field, Calista Flockhart, Balthazar Getty and Matthew Rhys, of the dramatic series Brothers & Sisters, in which she portrays Sarah Walker , who inherits control of the family business after her father's death. Griffiths received a 2007 Emmy nomination and a 2008 Emmy nomination for her work on the series. Griffiths received 2008 and 2009 Golden Globe nominations for her work on Brothers & Sisters.

Happy It's Here... (Super long-ass post, sorry)

Two days ago I had a sort of revelation.

And it had something to do with this thing for Whisper I've been doing all week on my show. It runs on the last hour of my show and it's called Happy Index, where I give away a $50 hamper if someone can tell me what makes them happy and I also talk about this thing Whisper's started called the 'happy it's here' initiative (basically Whisper talked to like 500 chicks aged 18-24 and found out that 95% of them have a negative perception of periods. To be honest with you - I'd probably be one of those chicks just cos I hardly care about it. It's just become this thing that happens once a month which requires me to walk into like Guardian or Watson and buy tampons. By the way wtf is up with the tampon supply in Singapore?!! Me and Riks both tried to find and they're like out of stock everywhere in SG!)

Anyway Whisper is trying to get girlies to "re-embrace the joys of womanhood"! They made a microsite - www.happyitshere.com.sg - which is aimed at getting pledges from women to be "happy its here!" through FB badges and online etc, and gives you info about your period. Sounded kinda weird and try-hard to me at first but I soon changed my mind. Mainly, because everything is supported by research and actually teaches you something about your body and therefore helps you understand it better, which I think is what makes you feel more positive about your period.

Like - they break down a 28 day cycle for you and reveal "secrets" about it. Now, everyday I've been reading one of the Secrets of the Cycle yeah, and everyday I get this feeling of "oh my god! I've totally had that before!" FOR EXAMPLE

(....... Bah! I left my notes at the office! Ok, I try and remember one!)

YES! Do you know that you typically get PMS from the 15th day of your cycle? Because that's when your estrogen levels are low and your progesterone levels are through the roof. And it lasts the next 4 days!!! So for 4 days, my body is doing this. And it has to do this, because, well, I'm a woman and I can produce children. It does this naturally, without me having to tell it, I don't set some kind of alarm clock, it just - does it. And it just makes me.... the moodiest biatch! Grrrr. Or like, you actually have a good hair day!!! I can't remember which day it is, check the website, but it's a day your hair is at it's best condition! HAHA! And it's so true for me man! Cos I've been wondering why there's a particular day sometimes when my hair is super awesome and manageable!! For real!

And Whisper also gives a tip yeah, like for the hair one they say go flip your hair or something, which is quite random and funny tbh. And for the PMS one they recommend a couple things like, taking acting classes so you have an outlet to just be emotional or going to the gym and work off all the irritability. And prior to knowing this tbh - I HATED PMS. It pissed me off because I couldn't control it, and because guys use it to tell you that you're being a bitch which annoys the shit out of me because.. I can't control it. But after reading the facts about it, I realised that it makes me understand what's happening so that next time I get more antsy/emotional/bitchy that usual, I'll know I will feel a lot better if I go work out. And that actually works by the way - I've done it before. Been slacking on the exercise lately but when I used to do Yoga twice a week, or when I go run at the gym twice a week at least, I feel heaps better. And just knowing that I could do this next time, made me actually feel heaps better.

So two days ago, I had a revelation (that wasn't it, sorry. Just stop reading if you're boooored of this already).

Now the other thing Whisper is also doing is having this event yeah, together with World Vision, so that they can send 3,000 packs/12,000 pads to women in Laos. I dunno if you find that weird but I didn't think nothing of it at first. But then the Whisper chick tells me that there are women in Laos who don't have pads, so they use cloth or leaves.....

LEAVES, DUDE!

How do you frickin use a leaf?! I couldn't believe it. But anyway, the thing is, cos they're using this stuff and it's not properly sanitized, a lot of them actually die from infection!! Can you believe this is happening at our back door?!?! That was a sort of wake-up call for me man. I mean, we don't have to worry about that shit here at all! So they're having an event on the 5th of December at Orchard Cineleisure and they wanna get pledges from women who are "happy it's here" so they can hit their target and send these packs to Laos. If they can't get 3,000 that would be not only ridiculous but sad. And I'd feel partially responsible because, I'm supposed to be helping get the word out about the "happy it's here" initiative so that chicks can understand their periods and therefore not hate a part of ourselves that's supposed to be perfectly natural, and show our support for other women who don't have the luxury of, at the very very least, being able to go to a frickin 7-11 down the road and buy pads! I really wanted to talk about this on air from my heart. Because I actually believe in it. But there was a problem.

I realised that I had been scared about doing the Happy Index on my show. I was afraid that some people would laugh and think what I was doing was stupid. Or some guys would go "Ugrh! That Vandetta weirdo is talking about periods again! Gross!" and just switch stations. But most of all, I was scared that if it didn't come across that I really believe in it, I would be letting down somebody who could benefit from it. Whether it's a young girl who doesn't know what's going on with her body cos she just got her period for the first time a few months ago, or some woman who feels misunderstood because she gets more emotional certain times more than others, or some dude who has no clue about periods and wants to know because there's a girl in his life who he loves... or a woman in Laos whose scared to use a frickin leaf when menstruates because her mum died of an infection from doing it when she was younger. I was scared of letting someone down. But there was someone else I would have let down.....

Which brings me to my revelation.

So, Whisper has a factsheet about the "happy it's here" initiative that they gave me. In it one of their goals is something like "... to change the social stigma surrounding periods...." or something like that. And I realised... the fact that I had been worried about saying what I had to meant that I was reinforcing that social stigma! I had gotten in my own head. I needed to stop thinking that I was alienating listeners. I needed to stop thinking that if I said the word "period" or "cycle" or "womanhood" that some people would be snickering at their radios. And I needed to focus on what my goal was. Because if I didn't, I would have let myself down. I had a chance to break a social stigma just by not participating in it. So I decided instead of executing the Happy Index in 3 talksets, which was what was discussed, that I'd take the whole hour to talk about it like I believed in it. Because I needed to get through to those people who need and want to know about it.

I don't know if I accomplished that in a day. I don't know what I've been able to do over the last few days talking about it. But what matters to me is that I took the time to make sure I never have to feel embarrassed about speaking the truth about something I believe in. And I'm glad I was able to have that moment.

And for that moment I would say "I'm happy it's here".

I know... Frickin cheesy, right??

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The "happy it's here" website (I love the song that plays don't ask why....)
Link to "happy it's here" facebook page

If you can't sleep...

Check out the videos of indie bands on La Blogotheque ..

My buddy Rhythm told me about it. He cool. Here's a cool one -

Split Series Priscilla Ahn - Dream
by lablogotheque

Whirlwinds and Green Grass

Worm-homie's birthday over the weekend was pretty rocking. That girl sure knows how to par-tay. We went to Helipad to watch Special K, then off to Velvet at like 4am. And ok... Since when did Velvet become a super sleaze fest!? It was full of guys trying to mack on chicks and when you walk in they stare at you like you like salivating dogs eyeballing racks of lamb. It's fucking grosssss! Ended up having an after-party at mine. Me and Shmoeticons had a little sing-a-long to "The Greatest View", which is a WICKED Silverchair track. I'm convinced my MIX Playlist on my Ipod is genius.

Silverchair - The Greatest View

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Things are about to get more hectic this week. For one, rehearsals for APEC start on Wednesday! I wonder if I'll get the chance to meet Mr. Obama. I highly doubt it, but it'll be cool to get to sing for him together with Mr. Batisah. We're doing "Heal The World" haha. R.I.P MJ!! I always find that when I am really busy, I just want peace and quiet but when I have a lot of free time I get really antsy and crave a little chaos.... I hate this trait of mine sometimes.

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Am really proud of one of my good friends, Artika. She's one of the most capable women I know and she's always had a dream to build her own empire so to speak. After years of stewing on a big idea and months and months of planning and hard work, she's finally done it. Her baby, Sloane Elizabeth Robertson, went online today!

Sloane Elizabeth Robertson website

Fashionistas, don't forget to check it out. I'm DEFINITELY getting some stuff.